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A Woman's Father

Created: Sunday, June 19th, 2005
14:32:05 UTC
Last modified: Sunday, June 19th, 2005
14:40:05 UTC

I found these excerpts by an award-winning feminist author that details how pivotal a father's role is in the development of women's response to men in the future. From the book Women and their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life (1992).

Women's attachments are "mirror images" of how they related to their fathers.

"If a woman does not have a loving dependable father, due to his arrested development or divorce, she may actually seek men who deny her needs or reject her. She may always be haunted by the thought that she is essentially unlovable. (224)

"Most of these daughters tended to test the men in their lives, starting fights, finding flaws, expecting to be abandoned, or looking for excuses to walk out themselves." (214)

They instinctively repeat what they experienced in childhood, even if it was the worst thing in the world. It's what they know. They are trying to have one more shot at childhood, one more chance to rewrite their emotional histories." (224)

To compensate, these women may become sexually active prematurely. They may fear intimacy. The common theme is "an inability to trust, to believe that a man won't go away. A significant percentage of such women may turn to lesbianism instead of confronting their fears of the male as the oppressor class." (225)