A needle of Hope
amid a haystack of Chaos.

A Simple Outlook to Accept (All?) Loss

Created: Saturday, May 7th, 2005
00:08:37 UTC

Since I was first confronted with the loss of someone I knew with death I realized that the entire concept did not really perturb me at all. Every one will die, dying is natural, and either they're going to a better place, getting what they deserve, or going nowhere; either way, why should I let *just* death affect me?

Since then, I have also come to accept loss of friends and lovers in the same way. I lose for the ascension of others, as I look at it. Plus, in terms of not associating with me, that's their loss, not mine. Most people claim their lives have been touched by mine. I pretty much selflessly serve others, knowing innately I and they are One. This realization has helped me accept, as I never thought possible just a few days ago, that just their search for happiness by and of itself is enough to honor their wishes; and why should I invest one ounce of sadness towards one who does not wish to reciprocate my love and/or friendship for fairly arbitrary reasons?

Besides, it's not like most of them diss me to my face. Virtually always it boils down to just avoiding me, either out of a frenetic schedule or because they have done some thing which makes them feel guilty of maintaining my friendship — this is especially true with ex-lovers. Virtually always it is for resolvable reasons and in all but one outstanding case, we have successfully re-initiated friendship more-or-less what it used to be.

In the end, all I can do is seek to progress; and others along with me.

By the grace of Life go I.

Time spent composing this document: 13 minutes.